Gavin de Becker Citas

• Debemos aprender y enseñar a nuestros hijos que la amabilidad no es sinónimo de bondad. La amabilidad es una decisión, una estrategia de interacción social; no es un rasgo del carácter. Las personas que buscan controlar a los demás casi siempre presentan al principio la imagen de una persona amable.

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  Inspirational, Children, Nice

  Gavin De Becker (1998). “The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals that Protect Us from Violence”, Dell Publishing Company

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• intuition is always right in at least two important ways; It is always in response to something. it always has your best interest at heart

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  Heart, Two, Intuition

  Gavin De Becker (1998). “The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals that Protect Us from Violence”, Dell Publishing Company

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• "No" es una palabra que nunca debe negociarse, porque la persona que decide no oírla está intentando controlarte... Negarse a escuchar un "no" es señal de que alguien busca el control o se niega a renunciar a él.

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  Choices, Abuse, Trying

  Gavin De Becker (1998). “The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals that Protect Us from Violence”, Dell Publishing Company

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• ¿Y por qué adoramos la retrospectiva (como en la constante repetición del día, la semana o el año por parte de los medios de comunicación) y desconfiamos de la previsión, que en realidad podría marcar la diferencia en nuestras vidas?

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  Differences, Media, Years

  Gavin De Becker (1998). “The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals that Protect Us from Violence”, Dell Publishing Company

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• Only human beings can look directly at something, have all the information they need to make an accurate prediction, perhaps even momentarily make the accurate prediction, and then say that it isn't so.

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  Needs, Looks, Information

  Gavin De Becker (1998). “The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals that Protect Us from Violence”, Dell Publishing Company

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• You have the gift of a brilliant internal guardian that stands ready to warn you of hazards and guide you through risky situations.

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  Hazards, Brilliant, Guardian

  Gavin De Becker (1998). “The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals that Protect Us from Violence”, Dell Publishing Company

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• It is understandable that the perspectives of men and women on safety are so different - men and women live in different worlds. [...] At core, men are afraid women will laugh at them, while at core, women are afraid men will kill them.

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  Men, Safety, Laughing

  "The Gift of Fear: And Other Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence". Book by Gavin de Becker, 1997.

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• Persistence only proves persistence-it does not prove love. The fact that a romantic pursuer is relentless doesn't mean you are special-it means he is troubled.

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  Mean, Persistence, Special

  Gavin De Becker (1998). “The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals that Protect Us from Violence”, Dell Publishing Company

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• Niceness is a decision, a strategy of social interaction; it is not a character trait.

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  Character, Decision, Strategy

  Gavin De Becker (1998). “The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals that Protect Us from Violence”, Dell Publishing Company

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• I've successfully lobbied and testified for stalking laws in several states, but I would trade them all for a high school class that would teach young men how to hear “no,” and teach young women that it's all right to explicitly reject.

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  School, Men, Law

  Gavin De Becker (2013). “Protecting the Gift: Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe (and Parents Sane)”, p.228, Dell

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• Most men fear getting laughed at or humiliated by a romantic prospect while most women fear rape and death.

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  Men, Humiliated, Laughed

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• Denial is a save now, pay later scheme.

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  Denial, Pay, Schemes

  Gavin De Becker (1998). “The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals that Protect Us from Violence”, Dell Publishing Company

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• Every day people engaged in the clever defiance of their own intuition become, in midthought, victims of violence and accidents. So when we wonder why we are victims so often, the answer is clear: It is because we are so good at it.

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  Clever, People, Intuition

  Gavin De Becker (1998). “The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals that Protect Us from Violence”, Dell Publishing Company

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• I encourage people to remember that "no" is a complete sentence.

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  People, Remember, Inspirational Kindness

  Gavin De Becker (2013). “Protecting the Gift: Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe (and Parents Sane)”, p.87, Dell

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• When dreaded outcomes are actually imminent we don't worry about themwe take action. Seeing lava from the local volcano make its way down the street toward our house does not cause worry it causes running. Also we don't usually choose imminent events as subjects for our worrying and thus emerges an ironic truth: Often the very fact that you are worrying about something means that it isn't likely to happen.

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  Running, Mean, Volcanoes

  Gavin De Becker (1999). “Protecting the Gift: Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe (and Parents Sane)”, Doubleday

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• The solution to violence in America is the acceptance of reality

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  Acceptance, Reality, America

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• When a baby is born the mother in particular enters into a new larger relationship with the world. She has become connected to all people. She is part of keeping us on earthnot the "us" comprised of individuals but the species itself. By protecting this one baby this gift a mother accepts life's clearest responsibility.

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  Mother, Baby, Responsibility

  Gavin De Becker (2013). “Protecting the Gift: Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe (and Parents Sane)”, p.22, Dell

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• Throughout history, fairly arbitrary lines drawn on maps have determined who prospers and who needs, who eats and who starves, who attacks and who is attacked, who lives long and who dies young. Oh, we have been slaves to those lines for so long.

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  Long, Needs, Arbitrary

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• The hijacking of an American jet in Athens looms larger in our concern than the parent who kills a child, even though the one happens rarely, and the other happens daily.

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  Children, Fear, Parent

  Gavin De Becker (1998). “The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals that Protect Us from Violence”, Dell Publishing Company

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• No matter how famous the victim, no matter how powerful the advocates, it simply isn't always possible to control the conduct of other people.

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  Powerful, People, Matter

  Gavin De Becker (1998). “The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals that Protect Us from Violence”, Dell Publishing Company

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