Laurence Steinberg Quotes

• What causes adolescents to rebel is not the assertion of authority but the arbitrary use of power, with little explanation of therules and no involvement in decision-making. . . . Involving the adolescent in decisions doesn't mean that you are giving up your authority. It means acknowledging that the teenager is growing up and has the right to participate in decisions that affect his or her life.

  Laurence Steinberg

  Giving Up, Growing Up, Teenager

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• Let your child be the teenager he or she wants to be, not the adolescent you were or wish you had been.

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  Children, Father, Teenager

  Laurence Steinberg (2011). “You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25”, p.27, Simon and Schuster

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• En una etapa en la que los jóvenes desean más que nada ser como los demás, son ellos los que menos se parecen. Todos los de su edad crecen y cambian, pero cada uno a su ritmo.

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  People, Age, Pace

  Laurence Steinberg (2011). “You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25”, p.70, Simon and Schuster

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• La presión de grupo no es una fuerza monolítica que presiona a los adolescentes para que sigan el mismo molde. . . . Los adolescentes suelen elegir amigos cuyos valores, actitudes, gustos y familias son similares a los suyos. En resumen, los buenos chicos rara vez se vuelven malos por culpa de sus amigos.

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  Attitude, Kids, Mold

  Laurence Steinberg (2011). “You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25”, p.4, Simon and Schuster

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• Adolescents need to be reassured that nothing-neither their growing maturity, their moods, their misbehavior, nor your anger at something they have done-can shake your basic commitment to them.

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  Anger, Commitment, Maturity

  Laurence Steinberg (2011). “You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25”, p.16, Simon and Schuster

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• Most adults would not dream of belittling, humiliating, or bullying (verbally or physically) another adult. But many of the same adults think nothing of treating their adolescent child like a nonperson. . . . Adolescents deserve the same civility their parents routinely extend to total strangers.

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  Dream, Bullying, Children

  Laurence Steinberg (2011). “You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25”, p.18, Simon and Schuster

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• Parents sometimes feel that if they don't criticize their child, their child will never learn. Criticism doesn't make people wantto change; it makes them defensive.

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  Niños, Personas, Padres

  Laurence Steinberg (2011). “You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25”, p.31, Simon and Schuster

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• What causes adolescents to rebel is not the assertion of authority but the arbitrary use of power, with little explanation of the rules and no involvement in the decision-making.

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  Father, Decision, Rebel

  Laurence Steinberg (2011). “You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25”, p.19, Simon and Schuster

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• Adolescents sometimes say..."My friends listen to me, but my parents only hear me talk." Often they are right. Familiarity breeds inattention.

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  Parent, Inattention, Sometimes

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• Some adolescents are troubled and some get into trouble. But the great majority (almost nine out of ten) do not. . . . The bottomline is that good kids don't suddenly go bad in adolescence.

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  Kids, Majority, Nine

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• Adolescents have the right to be themselves. The fact that you were the belle of the ball, the captain of the lacrosse team, the president of your senior class, Phi Beta Kappa, or a political activist doesn't mean that your teenager will be or should be the same....Likewise, the fact that you were a wallflower, uncoordinated, and a C student shouldn't mean that you push your child to be everything you were not.

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  Senior, Children, Teenager

  Laurence Steinberg (2011). “You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25”, p.28, Simon and Schuster

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• The parent-adolescent relationship is like a partnership in which the senior partner (the parent) has more expertise in many areasbut looks forward to the day when the junior partner (the adolescent) will take over the business of running his or her own life.

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  Senior, Running, Parent

  Laurence Steinberg (2011). “You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25”, p.5, Simon and Schuster

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• The public probably knows that teen drivers are at greater risk for fatal accidents. What the public doesn't know is what we ought to do about it.

  Laurence Steinberg

  Risk, Drivers, Ought

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