Barbara Deming Quotes

• The point is to change one's life. The point is not to give some vent to the emotions that have been destroying one; the point is so to act that one can master them now.

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  Giving, Emotion, Destroying

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• The longer we listen to one another - with real attention - the more commonality we will find in all our lives. That is, if we are careful to exchange with one another life stories and not simply opinions.

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  Peace, Real, Diversity

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• Our task, of course, is to transmute the anger that is affliction into the anger that is determination to bring about change. I think, in fact, that one could give that as a definition of revolution.

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  Determination, Anger, Thinking

  Barbara Deming (1974). “We cannot live without our lives”

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• A liberation movement that is nonviolent sets the oppressor free as well as the oppressed.

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  Strength, Movement, Liberation

  Barbara Deming (1984). “We Are All Part of One Another: A Barbara Deming Reader”

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• What is the revolution that we need? We need to dissolve the lie that some people have a right to think of other people as their property. And we need at last to form a circle that includes us all, in which all of us are seen as equal... We do not belong to the other, but our lives are linked; we belong in a circle of others.

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  Peace, Lying, Thinking

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• Vengeance is not the point; change is. But the trouble is that in most people's minds the thought of victory and the thought of punishing the enemy coincide.

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  Change, People, Mind

  Barbara Deming (1984). “We Are All Part of One Another: A Barbara Deming Reader”

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• To resort to power one need not be violent, and to speak to conscience one need not be meek. The most effective action both resorts to power and engages conscience. Nonviolent actions does not have to get others to be nice. It can in effect force them to consult their consciences. Nor does it have to petition those in power to do something about a situation. It can face the authorities with a new fact and say: Accept this new situation which we have created.

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  Peace, Nice, Doe

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• People may find it more comfortable to listen to us if we equivocate, but in the long run only words that discomfort them are going to change our situation.

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  Change, Running, Long

  Barbara Deming (1984). “We Are All Part of One Another: A Barbara Deming Reader”

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• Manliness has been defined as assertion of the self. Womanliness has been defined as the nurturing of selves other than our own - even if we quite lose our own in the process. (Women are supposed to find in this loss their true fulfillment.) But every individual person is born both to assert herself or himself and to act out a sympathy for others trying to find themselves - in Christian terms, meant to love one's self as one loves others ... Jesus never taught that we should split up that commandment - assigning 'love yourself' to men, 'love others' to women. But society has tried to.

  Barbara Deming

  Cristiano, Jesús, Love You

  Barbara Deming (1984). “We Are All Part of One Another: A Barbara Deming Reader”

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• Our own pulse beats in every stranger's throat.

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  Spiritual, Pulse, Stranger

  Barbara Deming (1984). “We Are All Part of One Another: A Barbara Deming Reader”

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• Gandhi once declared that it was his wife who unwittingly taught him the effectiveness of nonviolence. Who better than women should know that battles can be won without resort to physical strength? Who better than we should know all the power that resides in noncooperation?

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  Peace, Effectiveness, Wife

  Barbara Deming (1984). “We Are All Part of One Another: A Barbara Deming Reader”

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• We learn best to listen to our own voices if we are listening at the same time to other women-whose stories, for all our differences, turn out, if we listen well, to be our stories also.

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  Voice, Differences, Justice

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• Let me be really here, here in this place and this time where I am.

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  Live In The Moment, Moments, Let Me

  Barbara Deming (1984). “We Are All Part of One Another: A Barbara Deming Reader”

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• I think the only choice that will enable us to hold to our vision. . . is one that abandons the concept of naming enemies and adopts a concept familiar to the nonviolent tradition: naming behavior that is oppressive.

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  Thinking, Choices, Enemy

  Barbara Deming (1984). “We Are All Part of One Another: A Barbara Deming Reader”

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• La mayoría de los estadounidenses están profundamente asombrados de las cosas tal y como son. Incluso con todo tan obviamente fuera de control, todavía se dicen a sí mismos que los que están en la autoridad deben saber lo que están haciendo, y deben estar describiéndonos nuestra condición como realmente es; todavía dan por sentado que de alguna manera lo que es, lo que se hace, debe tener sentido, no puede ser realmente una locura. Estas suposiciones ejercen una tiranía sobre sus mentes.

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  Exercise, Mind, Insane

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• Punishment cannot heal spirits, can only break them.

  Barbara Deming

  Punishment, Spirit, Break

  Barbara Deming (1974). “We cannot live without our lives”

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• Vengeance is not the point: change is.

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  Venganza

  Barbara Deming (1984). “We Are All Part of One Another: A Barbara Deming Reader”

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• Balance and control come from healthy anger. This is just as aggressive as the unhealthy kind. But it is based on a belief and hope for change in social roles and institutions. Healthy anger demands change and creates the confrontations needed for change to occur. It also gives the other an opportunity to help make that change. “Our task, of course, is to transmute the anger that is affliction into the anger that is determination to bring about change. I think, in fact, that one could give that as a definition of revolution.

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  Determination, Opportunity, Thinking

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• I learned always to trust my own deep sense of what I should do, and not just obediently trust the judgment of others - even others better than I am.

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  Judgment, Should, Judgment Of Others

  Barbara Deming (1984). “We Are All Part of One Another: A Barbara Deming Reader”

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• This is the heart of my argument: We can put more pressure on the antagonist for whom we show human concern.

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  Heart, Pressure, Argument

  Barbara Deming (1984). “We Are All Part of One Another: A Barbara Deming Reader”

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• Surely all of us are nerved by one another, catch courage from one another.

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  Barbara Deming (1984). “We Are All Part of One Another: A Barbara Deming Reader”

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• It is not as mirrors reflect us but, rather, as our dreams do, that movies most truly reveal the times. If the dreams we have been dreaming provide a sad picture of us, it should be remembered that - like that first book of Dante's Comedy - they show forth only one region of the psyche. Through them we can read with a peculiar accuracy the fears and confusions that assail us - we can read, in caricature, the Hell in which we are bound. But we cannot read the best hopes of the time.

  Barbara Deming

  Movie, Dream, Book

  Barbara Deming (1984). “We Are All Part of One Another: A Barbara Deming Reader”

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• The free man must be born before freedom can be won, and the brotherly man must be born before full brotherhood can be won. It will come into being only if we build it out of our very muscle and bone - by trying to act it out.

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  Men, Brotherhood, Being Free

  Barbara Deming (1974). “We cannot live without our lives”

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• To resort to power one need not be violent, and to speak to conscience one need not be meek.

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  Needs, Speak, Violent

  Barbara Deming (1984). “We Are All Part of One Another: A Barbara Deming Reader”

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• A great many of us must move from words to acts - from words of dissent to acts of disobedience.

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  Moving, Great Men, Obedience

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